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What If Someone I Love Is Suicidal?

If you are concerned that the person will harm themselves, call 911.      

   Try to convince them to get medical help.

To someone feeling suicidal, depressed, or anxious, the idea of talking to a doctor or mental health professional can seem overwhelming. To them, suicide may seem like the only way to control their pain. Tell them that you are concerned about them, and suggest that a professional who understands what they are feeling can help them to feel better. Let them know you are there to listen, and offer help finding or getting to a doctor, mental health professional, or hospital emergency room. Stay with them and call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255

      Don't keep their suicidal feelings a secret.    

Privacy is important, but your loved ones life is far more important. Depression and other mental disorders may be distorting their judgment and leading them towards wanting to harm themselves. Even if you think they may become angry with you, saving their life is the most important priority. You can not help them alone. If they are feeling suicidal they need professional help.

                                Remain calm.                                 

            Don't get upset, yell,or judge. It is impossible for you to understand how much hurt they feel inside. If they feel like you are angry or irritated with them for feeling suicidal than they may shut down and quit talking.

Always believe someone when they say they want to die.

 Most people who die by suicide tell someone they plan to hurt themselves before they take their lives. When someone tells you they are thinking of suicide, they are giving you an opportunity to help before it’s too late. Don't assume that they are just upset or looking for attention. They are crying out for help.

            Listen. Let them know that you are                               there and that you care.

Many of us grow up with the belief that people who take their own lives are crazy, selfish, or have some kind of a moral defect. We think that people who are depressed need to shake it off or stop moping around. But as we begin to understand that suicidal thinking and behavior is the result of a treatable medical condition, people become less fearful and more able to listen to a person in distress with empathy and without judgment. Even if it makes you feel anxious, remember that listening and encouraging treatment can help. Never dismiss someones feelings, especially if they are struggling.

                             Be Prepared.

Take the time to learn what to do now, so you're ready to be there for a friend or loved one when it matters most. Often, suicidal people do not seek help, so friends or family who suspect something is wrong should seek help on their behalf.

Never leave a suicidal person alone. Ever.

Stay with them. Make sure they don't have access to pills, razors or firearms.